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How do I find a partner who shares my values?

Begin with yourself rather than a checklist about someone else. Write down the handful of things you would not want to live without in a relationship: how you spend a Sunday, how you treat money, whether faith, family or the outdoors sit at the centre of your life. Then write down what you could happily bend on. Most people find the second list is longer than they expected, and that is good news, because it widens the field without lowering the bar.

Values show up in what people do more than in what they say. Notice how someone talks about their friends, how they behave when plans change, and whether they ask about you as well as telling you about themselves. Shared tastes in music or food are pleasant; shared ideas about kindness, honesty and how to spend a life are what tend to hold.

Look in places where your values are already visible: volunteering, a community garden, a walking group, a faith community, a class in something you care about. Meeting someone while you are both doing a thing you love tells you more in an afternoon than weeks of messages.

If you would like help, you can tell Luna what you are looking for, whether that is love, friendship or companionship. Heaven Soul Mates builds your profile from what matters to you rather than from what you swipe at, and makes introductions you can take at your own pace. It can make an introduction; it cannot make a relationship, and what happens next is yours.

How do I write a dating profile that sounds like me?

Write the way you talk. Read your draft aloud, and if a line sounds like an advert or a job application, cut it. Phrases such as "I love to laugh" or "work hard, play hard" describe almost everyone, so they tell a reader almost nothing about you.

Be specific instead. "I am learning to bake bread and it is going badly" says more than "I like cooking". A detail gives the other person something to reply to, which is the whole point of a profile: to start a conversation, not to win an argument.

Say what you are looking for kindly and clearly. If you want something long term, say so; the right people will be glad you did. Leave out lists of what you do not want, which read as wounds rather than wishes. Choose recent photos that look like you on an ordinary good day, including at least one where your face is clear and one doing something you enjoy.

Keep private details private. Your surname, workplace, home street and children's names do not belong on a profile. If you use Heaven Soul Mates, Luna can help you shape what you have written into a profile, and you decide what it says before anyone sees it.

How do I stay safe when meeting someone from online?

Take your time. Chat for a while, and consider a video call before you meet, so you know the person matches their photos. Someone who refuses every call, or whose story keeps shifting, is telling you something. Do a simple search of their name and pictures if you are unsure.

Meet first in a busy public place, get there and home under your own steam, and tell a friend where you are going, who you are meeting and when you expect to be back. Arrange to message that friend during and after the date. Keep your drink with you, and leave whenever you want to; you owe nobody a second hour.

Never send money, gift cards or bank details to someone you have only met online, however real the connection feels and however urgent the story. Requests to move money quickly, to pay in an unusual way, or to keep the relationship secret from friends and family are the classic signs of a romance scam. Stop, talk to someone you trust, and report it to the platform and to your bank.

If anything feels wrong, trust that feeling, leave and report it, even if you cannot say exactly why. You do not need proof to end a conversation or block someone. Reporting helps protect the next person too, and a platform can only act on what it is told. If you are ever in immediate danger, call the emergency services.

How do I stay close to family and friends who live far away?

Distance is easier to bridge with rhythm than with grand gestures. A short call at the same time each week often does more than a long visit once a year, because it becomes something both of you can count on. Agree a time that suits both time zones, and treat it like any other appointment.

Share the ordinary as well as the big news. A photo of what you cooked, a voice note on the walk to work, a question about their garden: small things keep you part of each other's everyday life, which is what closeness actually is. Group chats help families keep everyone in the loop, though a one-to-one message still means more than a reply in a crowd.

Do things together at a distance: watch the same film and talk afterwards, read the same book, cook the same recipe on a video call. Write a letter now and again; it is still lovely to receive one, and it can be kept and read again on a hard day.

Heaven Chat gives you one place for messages, calls and groups across the Heaven apps, so the people you know can reach you without an advertising business reading over your shoulder. It does not replace the effort of staying in touch; it gives that effort a calm place to happen.

How do I make new friends as an adult?

Friendship as an adult rarely happens by accident, because the structures that once threw people together, school, university and shared housing, have gone. That is not a sign anything is wrong with you. It simply means friendship now needs a little planning.

Go back to the same place regularly. A weekly class, club, choir, team or volunteering shift lets familiarity do its quiet work; people warm to faces they see again and again. Choose something you would enjoy even if you made no friends there, so the time is never wasted.

Be the one who suggests the next step. Most people are waiting to be asked. "Would you like to get a coffee after this next week?" is a small risk with a good chance of a warm answer. Follow up, remember details, and ask about them next time.

Be patient. Acquaintances become friends through repeated, low-pressure time together, and that takes months rather than days. If loneliness is weighing on you, it is worth talking to someone you trust or your GP, and the NHS Every Mind Matters pages have practical ideas. Telling Luna that you are looking for friendship rather than romance is also welcome; Soul Mates is for companionship as well as love.

What makes Heaven different from a dating app?

Many apps are paid for by attention, so they are designed to keep you scrolling, and a person who finds someone and leaves is, commercially, a lost customer. Heaven's Love journey is built around a different aim: fewer, better introductions, and a private place to talk with no advertising business sitting in the middle of it.

Heaven Soul Mates reads what matters to you rather than what you swipe at, and lets you take introductions when you are ready. You decide who to meet, and when. Heaven Chat is where the people you already know reach you. Both apps are pay as you go with Heaven energy, used for things such as a match search or an introduction, so there is no subscription to cancel.

What Heaven cannot do matters just as much. It cannot promise that you will meet someone, it cannot vouch for a stranger's intentions, and it is no substitute for the safety habits above. Keep meeting people in daylight, keep your friends in the loop, and use Heaven as one way in, alongside the clubs, friends and communities where people have always found each other.

Questions people ask

Can Heaven promise I will find a partner?

No. Nobody can honestly promise that, and Heaven Eco Hub does not. Heaven Soul Mates looks for people who share what matters to you and makes introductions you can take at your own pace, but an introduction is only a beginning. Whether it becomes a friendship, a relationship or nothing at all depends on the two people involved.

How do I stay safe when meeting someone from online for the first time?

Meet in a busy public place, travel there and back independently, and tell a friend where you are going, who you are meeting and when you will be home. Check in with that friend during and after. A video call beforehand helps confirm the person is who they say they are. Leave whenever you feel uncomfortable, and report anything worrying to the platform.

How can I tell if someone I met online is a romance scammer?

Be wary of anyone who declares strong feelings very quickly, avoids video calls, has a story that keeps changing, or asks you to keep the relationship secret. The clearest sign is a request for money, gift cards or bank details, often with an urgent reason. Never send money to someone you have not met in person, and talk to someone you trust.

Is Heaven Soul Mates only for romance?

No. Heaven Soul Mates is for love, friendship and companionship. When you start the Love journey on Heaven Eco Hub, you can tell Luna, the guide, what you are actually looking for, including simply wanting to meet people who share your values or to feel less alone. Introductions are made at your own pace, and you decide who to meet.

What is Heaven Chat?

Heaven Chat is the messaging app in Heaven Eco Hub's Love journey. It gives you one place for messages, calls and groups across the Heaven apps, so the people you know can reach you without an advertising business reading over your shoulder. It is pay as you go with Heaven energy for assisted features rather than a subscription.

How do I keep in touch with family who live in another country?

Set a regular call at a time that suits both time zones and keep to it, since rhythm matters more than length. Share small everyday moments through photos and voice notes, and do things together at a distance, such as watching the same film or cooking the same recipe on a video call. A group chat keeps the wider family connected.